We really have got to get that moth.
Or:
Beam us up.
Or:
We are. Awaiting. Our Operating. Instructions.
{happy friday.}
When I saw this cool post in the UK-based newspaper Mail Online–“Mother Shuns Disney Princess Ideal and Dresses Daughter Up as Five REAL Heroines from History” I immediately tweeted it and shared on Facebook, gushing, “this is fantastic!’
It is pretty cool, these lovely black-and-white portraits replicating signature portraits of notable women, and the current love for all things retro-fabulous is probably at least partially responsible for why the post has gone viral.
(That, and the fact that little five-year-old Emma is adorable and apparently a good tableau vivant actress and her talented mama, Jamie Moore, pulled off this photographic project very, very well.)
But almost as soon as I cooed over this on social media, I felt unsure. Looked at in one way, the project communicates a powerful message: here, little Emma, see these women? You can step into their shoes. You, too, can overcome seemingly impossible obstacles and achieve great things.
THAT is great.
Dressing up a little girl as Helen Keller or Susan B. Anthony sure beats dressing her up as a princess or a Barbie.
(Amelia Earhart was a more troubling choice; as this PBS documentary notes, her looks helped propel–sorry–her aviation career and fame, and there was a healthy dose of marketing sham in the mix of her story.)
But even without Ms. Earhart, I’m not sure that Jamie Moore’s project actually achieves the escape from the objectifying princess culture that she–and I, and the tens of thousands who’ve shared the article–may have hoped. Because, in the end, it’s still about positioning a little girl in front of a camera, having dressed her and primped her to achieve a certain ‘look.’
And dressing up is fine, and fun…but let’s not give it the status of a revolutionary act.
Can you imagine doing a similar project with boys?
Maybe you can. As the mother of two boys, that’s the first thing that popped into my head: could I do something like this with them?
Then I realized that, while possible, such a thing wouldn’t have much meaning. As a culture we don’t feel the need to point out to boys that they can do anything, and for a boy to enjoy dressing up (as mine do) is ridiculed, not praised, even as media images increasingly press boys and men to look a certain way and embody certain ideals of masculinity.
Which brought me back to that feeling of discomfort at this adorable and creative project. I don’t know the story behind it (I’d like to!) but I get the awkward feeling that Emma probably now knows more about how these women look than about what they did. Okay, fine. She is only five. Still…
But how does this then not participate in the same image-driven culture that envelops us all, that entices us to click and look and share and pin? Sure, this project is better than little girls dressing up like sexed-up teens and adult women, but, weirdly enough, it folds in on itself to show that it’s just a classier version of the same thing–valuing and celebrating girls and women for the ‘iconic’ visual image they present to the world.
{Not to mention the fact that there are hundreds and thousands and millions of women in history and alive today whose pictures have never been and will never be taken but whose stories are very worth telling.}
That, not incidentally, was what was so great about the original (and lately, much lamented) American Girl dolls. They definitely were consumer products, let’s not kid ourselves; I pored over each and every catalog with total and utter covetousness. However, they were rich in story, such that many of the outfits and the accessories didn’t make SENSE without the story. (Like Molly’s camp uniform. Which I still have.) Each doll had SIX chapter books and, later, even MORE stories in the fantastic American Girl magazine.
(I was a charter subscriber, ahem.)
How they looked was much, much less important than what they loved, how they overcame, who they were friends with, how they contributed to the wider culture of their own day.
And all that was communicated in the books at the level that (okay, maybe not a five year old) a seven year old could understand.
Sometimes I think that the Hebrew Bible’s proscription against graven images of the divine was really onto something.
I’m all about celebrating material goods as blessings. I love beauty, even the physical kind. But real beauty (I’m looking at you, Dove!) doesn’t always often doesn’t show up in photographs.
Instead of celebrating the pictures, we need to tell the stories.
And then, if they want, the children can draw their own pictures. And their own conclusions.
Talking to Martha Manikas-Foster at Family Life radio is always, always a pleasure. (We’ve talked before about boys and guns and the new domesticity).
Recently Martha interviewed me about my book. Below is some of what she wrote about it, and you can listen to our conversation here.
Toward the end of her new book Eat With Joy, our guest on Inside Out–author Rachel Marie Stone–assures us that when it comes what she calls “joyful eating,” it’s best to accept that we’re never going to do it perfectly. For me that’s a comfortable place to start every attempt at change. And change is what Rachel’s talking about. If we arrive somewhere near the goal, Rachel would have us cooking and eating together—even in our messy houses–and doing it all with gratitude toward God.
“I hope that those people who are inclined to restrict their eating, to approach food with a diet mentality, and to feel guilty about food—I hope that in reading my book they might find freedom to enjoy God’s gift of food,” Rachel says. “And I hope that people might feel an invitation to be more intentional about family dinners and about inviting each other over for an ordinary meal. And I also hope that people will discover that there’s much more to food than just keeping us alive and healthy.”
Reduce guilt. Increase joy.
“Ultimately,” she says, “it’s about connecting us with one another, and connecting us to God.”
Rachel talked with us previously on Inside Out when we wondered if there’s a link between toy guns and violence. She also helped us understand the movement that’s being called the “new domesticity.” Rachel’s written for numerous publications and is a regular contributor to one of Christianity Today’s blogs: her.meneutics. She joined us for this conversation from her home in the Republic of Malawi, in southeast Africa. And though at times the physical distance between us diminished the sound quality of our recording, trust me when I say that it had no negative impact on her enthusiasm.
Join us (by clicking here) to hear our conversation. We talk about how the Bible uses the language of food to illustrate God’s provision, how chopped onions and a little olive oil can delight the senses, and how a simple meal with family or friends can build community.
Do you know PRISM magazine? You should! It’s published by Evangelicals for Social Action, and the latest issue is all about FOOD JUSTICE. Check it out!
And while you’re there I’d like to share that the ESA website has a new review of my book, Eat With Joy.
Here’s some of what Nicole Morgan wrote:
“As someone who has long been interested in the often volatile relationship humans have with food and the way it impacts how we see ourselves and those around us, I had been looking forward to reading Stone’s book. I was not disappointed. She does a good job of talking about our bodies and health without falling into the trap of advocating a certain “perfect” body type. This book is also, thankfully, not a “devotional diet” book. I was happy to see her acknowledgement early in the book that the church as a whole has done little to combat (and at times has enabled) the damaging lies the media tells us about food’s relationship to our body.
One of the things I appreciated the most about the book is the inclusion of prayers and “points for action” at the end of each chapter. Stone provides tools for meaningful ways to integrate eating with joy into a daily practice. Especially refreshing is her honesty throughout the book in acknowledging that to eat with joy with a mind towards justice is not easy. Once you start looking into the food injustice in the world, it seems impossible to remove yourself entirely from complicity. The action points and blessings are starting points to work towards justice and joy in regards to food.”
There’s more. You can read it all here.
{An earlier version mistakenly called the reviewer ‘Nicole Brown.’ I apologize!}